Why Don’t You Want What I Want? – Elaine Froese – Farm Family Coach
Another thing we need to understand and change is that sometimes people don’t want what you want. Do you always get your own way?
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There are three levels of pushing back or resistance. The first is: I don’t understand. Can you explain it another way? And in succession and transition planning this would be things like: Do you know what an estate freeze is? In grazing cattle it would be: Do you understand what swath grazing is – if it’s something they’ve never done before you have to explain it. The second pushback of resistance is if I’m having an emotional gut reaction to this: It doesn’t feel good. I don’t like it. Quite often, people will say, “I’m not doing that because it doesn’t feel right.” The third level of resistance is trust – the basic foundational level of a team. So, when you are trying to make decisions on your ranch and trying to get things to change, think about why the other people on your team might not want what you want. It might be because they don’t understand where you’re going because you’re not communicating clearly. It might be an emotional thing: “This land has been owned by my grandfather for 100 years and you’re not going to change that.” The third level is: “What happens, son, if I give you this and it becomes your ownership and 5 years from now you screw up and you lose it.” A lot of founding fathers have that fear, that the next generation won’t be able to keep it together like they have.
About Elaine Froese
Elaine Froese is an expert in helping family businesses talk about tough issues. She’s a catalyst for courageous conversations for positive farm succession planning. Like many of her clients, Elaine is an active farmer and she watches the sky. Her common sense and down tot earth style of communicating and asking hard questions is deeply appreciated by folks who find it hard to ask for help.
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